5 Tips We Youths must critically Look into before Concluding to Relationship/Marriage

5 Tips We Youths must critically Look into before Concluding to Relationship/Marriage

1. Forcing yourself on someone  Male and Female respectively.....No gender difference cause we are all human being

2. Mistaking Friendship for a *Relationship* which many of us are a victim

3. Marrying cause it's a Long Time Relationship

4. Marrying cause *Others are  getting Married* or cause of *Pressure* mind you anybody can't pressurise you either family or friends

5. Marrying because of *Material Things or Love for Luxury*

NOTE: It's better to be Single believing God to be Marry than Married and praying to become single. Frustration/Divorce will not be our portion as Married individual

1. Forcing yourself on someone: I will be sincere with you this is mostly common in our society today. These usually occur when two parties find themselves attractive at 1st they will try all their best to make sure the relationship works and it is possible at the other way round as some can go as far as buying the *LOVE* with Money or anything respectively and maybe the male or female is not yet at the assured mind or maybe someone is somewhere winking or more attractive this may lead to deviation of attention and this may simply lead to frustration for either of the parties, I further explain this way; it may even be that they both came into the relationship cause of one reason or the other (e.g let me have my own share of him/her) it may be sexual or financial aspect of it and after accomplishing the aim definitely the attention will definitely be chartered although one of the parties may have started developing more feeling or interest but  because it's not a genuine feeling from scratch definitely it won't work out that is when u will start hearing several excuses like; Baby you don't know how to sleep e.g U snore alot, why are you dressed like this, you nag too much and many more.....my brother and sister I ll not like us to quickly jump into conclusion but take little more of your time but not too long cause amount of time wasted can't be reverse or rectify if the season never change then I can tell you the relationship ll not take you anywhere it's possible he/she as gotten someone more interesting or done with you so far the aims as been accomplished no need of forcing yourself IT WON'T WORK regardless of either he/she as once introduce you to his/her family mind you, you may not even be the first person to be introduced so to some extend I will say introducing ones boyfriend or girlfriend to one's family is never an assurance of marriage. To conclude this I will like to plead to us, pls on no account should you change your life style or anything about you all in the name of falling in love although not the worse aspects (definitely worse must be change to best) but live your life cause it's worth living not cause of pleasing someone or you want them to stay.......they will stay if they are meant to and will walk pass if that are meant to

2: Mistaking Friendship for Relationship:

Most of we ladies and gents of nowadays are a great victim, why? Beeing a close or best of friends  does not mean you are good for a close or best *Relationship* I wonder why my friend will suddenly become my lover because he always tell me everything about him or her or because he/she as no boy/girlfriend at the moment I tag that *WRONG ASSUMPTION* Why it's very impossible for two male or female friends to become lovers so I can profess it to male and female bosom friends to become lovers although in the other way round it's possible but that is where one of our holy book says and I quote " *except two agree it will be difficult for them to work together* " so also an adage that says only two friends can come together as 1 but that is where there is a mutual understanding not on a Friendship zone..........I go further and sight an example: some may say maybe he/she is shy so far we do buy gift for each other that alone as taking us a long way, some may have even gone as far as exchanging sexual intercourse on no specific picture of what they are both in for, all this summary now make you turn every offer that come your way null and void hmmmmmmm..........my brother and sister I will not lie to u that is a *TOTAL WRONG ASSUMPTION* it's either u are bold enough to tell it to him/her or continue your friendship as long as it can last or you stop ASAP (As soon as possible) before you fall a victim of long time depression because when he/she we introduce his/her partner to you it will not be as if you are season dream (Unending Dream). If I may ask have you in anyway ask yourself why you should be a friend at first before putting all your thought to practice and mind you, it may even be that he/She don't even have an iota of feeling whatsoever than that of a friend, you may probably not be his/her spect in term of relationship and it may also be possible he/she is just there to lend you a helping hand in time of lack and want or the likes(i.e your angel on earth) that does not make you his/her favourite, you may likely be his/her keeper and many more pls I will urge you if there's no clear understanding about dating or true relationship pls quickly wake up from that deep sleep & bring back your wrong thought and permit that innocent Boo/Bae to express their true feelings to you before time runs out of you or you run out of time.........

N.B don't disappoint, delay yourself and end up remain single while your right man/woman end up in a wrong hand

3. *Marrying cause it's a Long Time Relationship:* I personally have thought severally why is a must u marry your long time relationship or why long time relationship don't often work out as expected, my brother and sister I am so happy to tell it to you that if your long awaited relationship does not work out that's not the end of life and if it actually does congratulations.........we learn everyday some that work are a product of *Perseverance, Tolerance and Endurance* or are destined to be.

N.B Not all male/female out there are as patient as what relationship deemed fit but it takes the courageous and ambitious ones to conquer the trying time, and to those that are not working don't workup yourself on that it may be that the period spent together are the only assigned period by God, don't go extra mile in making it work to avoid future regret. The reason for breaking up may be because better things are far ahead of you......so I ll urge u to ask yourself why it doesn't workout if u are at fault make amends, try if you can call back the relationship don't let *EGO* deprive you of God purpose for your life and if your trier is not working kindly move on, believe in yourself and pray to God for divine intervention also try to avoid making the same mistake to avoid same end-result but if otherwise gather all the previous lesson learnt but *NEVER GIVE UP* As said in the saying that *No Harm in Trying....  

 
4. *Marrying cause Others are getting Married or cause of Pressure:* This is one of the latest version in vogue now, because my secondary school, tertiary mates or my neighborhood friends are married or getting Marry I too must get marry ASAP.............Haaaaaa! So sorry I exclaimed, I want us to look at it from this angle
*Cause others are getting Married*  pls kindly ask yourself this few questions before jumping into conclusion;
1. Are we *twins* and even though we are is it a must we marry cause of one another?
2. Is *my *success* tagged to *their success* ?
I don't want to take much more of our time......I guess all the answer to this are capital N O= *NO* so why is these causing us several unnecessary *vigil* ? My Bro/Sis you don't know how far or how many years it take them to plan or prepare for that gracious day you witness in a bite and start giving yourself H.B.P or start nagging on that innocent Boo/Bae of delaying you. Pls you are still sleeping, kindly wake up before you regret being too *Optimistic* .
*Cause of Pressure*: I laughed😄, ask me why? Yoruba adage says & I quote (Abanida Oni Banide'be) *"He who force/encourage you to do it, will not be there to suffer alongside with you"* take it or you leave it. And mind you anybody can pressurise you just please take your time to wave their pressure, know what you want and pray for God divine intervention because only God can bless you on certain things without adding any sorrow but better still he will grant you nothing but a *Successful Ending*

5 Marrying cause of Material Things or Love for Luxury:
This is applicable to the both genders so I will speak generally. it's possible you fall in love with the said  person cause he/she is Financially Bouyant, Physically endowed, Mentally attractive or his/her Social Engagement......mind you, all this are nothing but *VANITY* as this are tend to fade away. Many marriages today are no more working as expected because their reasons for it at the 1st instance are no where to b found, that Car, Cuteness and others may have gone without any trace of fast recovery. So now you are confused if to continue or file for a divorce.......No! that is not the solution call your partner and be humble enough to pray for divine deliverance, as God is the only one who knows the end from the beginning (Alpha and Omega)& his capable of listening to a sincere heart. Note: I'm not telling you to date or marry in Penury (Poor Person)......No, all I deem fit is kindly look into the person you can talk to, plan a better life/future with cause sometimes (Already Made) are not the best, they may be rude to you e.g (Take you for granted) afterall you don't know how they come about what you admire about them and you never can tell how he/she go about the listed things above, but if peradventure it's real I wish you best of luck....... back to what I was saying, if you see that struggling male/female who you know can contribute Success to your own endeavour you are good to go but please don't be fooled, be wise in all ramifications cause not all said innocent Boo/Bae of today we stick with you when everything turn out the way they expected (After Making it in life) cause you struggled together, so while praying for betterment also remember yourself so that you make it on your own as well to avoid another phase of disappointment while your mind is already settled but if you discovered the said person is not on the track my dear Bro/Sis I will urge you to bypass cause not everybody know the purpose of  their own existence, so you don't expect such person to add value to yours.
I wish us all best of luck as we correct where ever needed to make amendments.

MY QUESTION IS THIS
ARE YOU REALLY READY TO MARRY?