Some relationship are at the verge of breakup probably because both partners feel that their relationship wasn't as interesting and fascinating as it was when they both started dating. So tonight by God's grace I will be talking about
WAYS TO IGNITE THAT LOVE BACK.
1. There is no successful relationship on earth without God. Some people have the wrong notion that when my partner and I pray snd study the bible our relationship will be boring but the truth is it won't because both of you will be learning new things together. A common adage says a family that prays together stays together. When you pray together it ignite your love for each other the more because the love of God burns in both of you heart and he directs you on ways to sustain your relationship.
2. Both partners should go out to the movies or cinema just the both of you with no third party because you are trying to ignite your relationship back.
3. The guy should try to take the lady to the place he proposed to her and also try to recollect all that he had said and re say them again by this he sparks up something in his babe heart.
4. Communication is the most important. Without it you don't have a relationship. The quickest way to kill your relationship is by not communicating with your partner for a whole week. Your love life with your partner will drop drastically.
5. Both partners should act mature. Nobody likes it when a partner nag at the other. Correct in love.
6. Surprise your partner. It's not only when it's Valentine's day or your partner's birthday before you can surprise him or her. You can get him or her something he or she has always wanted to buy or a nice gift.
7. Never stop learning about your partner. People grow and change. Seize every opportunity to learn more about your partner.
8. Avoid doing those habits that your partner doesn't like.
9. Both partner can decide to learn something together or you can decide to teach your partner some of those things your partner doesn't know how to do but note that you shouldn't criticise your partner.
10. Above all apart from number 1 love your partner unconditionally and trust him or her don't base your judgement on ear say.
11. Always try to listen to your partner and create time for him or her irrespective of your busy schedule. No amount of time is too much or too small as long as both partners understand each other schedule.
According to experts, the most common reason couples lose their passion for each other and stop being sexually intimate is a pursuer-distancer pattern that develops over time.
Foster Emotional Intimacy
A good sexual relationship is built on emotional intimacy and closeness. In other words, if you’re hoping to improve your physical relationship, you need to first work on your emotional connection. Focus on meeting your partner’s needs and communicating your own needs in a loving, respectful way.
InThe Science of Trust, Dr. M.k babatunde further in his book which is not yet be publish title "HOW EROS BOOSTER LOVE". I explains in that book that couples who want to rekindle their passion and love need to turn towards each other. Practicing emotional attunement can help you stay connected even when you disagree. This means turning toward one another by showing empathy, instead of being defensive.Both partners need to talk about their feelings in terms ofpositive need, instead of what they donotneed.
Expressing apositive needis a recipe for success for both the listener and the speaker because it conveys complaints and requests without criticism. “This requires a mental transformation from what is wrong with one’s partner to what one’s partner can do that would work. The speaker is reallysaying, ‘Here’s what I feel, and what I need from you.'”
Rekindle Sexual Chemistry
During the early phase of marriage, many couples barely come up for air dueto the excitement of falling in love. Unfortunately, this blissful state doesn’t last forever.Scientists have discovered that oxytocin (a bonding hormone) released during the initial stage of infatuation causes couples to feel euphoric and turned on by physical touch. It actually works like a drug, givingus immediate rewards that bind us to our lover.
Sexual attraction is hard to maintain overtime. For instance, if miss adeola and ewas segun can lack passion if they are unwilling to give up control and show vulnerability. As a result, they avoid sex and rarely touch each other. Sex therapist Laurie Watson says, “Most sexual concerns stem from an interpersonal struggle in the marriage.”
So Here are tips to bring back the passion and ignite love back in your marriage:
👉1. Change your pattern of initiating sex: Maybe you are denying your partner or coming on too strong. Avoid criticizing each other and stop the “blame game.” Mix things up to end the power struggle. For example, distancers may want to practice initiating sex more often and pursuers try to find ways to tell their partner “you’re sexy,” in subtle ways while avoiding critique and demands for closeness.
2. Hold hands more often: According to my research and I review that, holding hands, hugging, and touching can release oxytocin causing a calming sensation. Studies show it’s also released during sexual orgasm. Additionally, physical affection reduces stress hormones – lowering daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
3. Separate sexual intimacy from routine: Plan intimacy time and avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Sexual arousal plummets when we’re distracted and stressed.
4. Carve out time to spend with your partner: Try a variety of activities that bring you both pleasure. Have fun courting and practice flirting as a way to ignite sexual desire and intimacy.
Dr. M.k babatunde said in his book that “everything positive you do in your relationship is foreplay.”
5. Focus on affectionate touch: Offer to give your partner a back or shoulder rub. People associate foreplay with sexual intercourse, but affectionate touch is a powerful way to demonstrate and rekindle passion even if you are not a touchy-feely person.
Conclusion, the tips listed can allow your partner to influence you and can reignite the spark you once enjoyed. In fact, i Dr. M.k babatunde proving to us that friendship is also the glue that can hold a marriage together: “Couples who know each other intimately [and] are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams are couples who make it.”
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