Any way you look at it, malice is an assault on the peaceful ambience of the home. It often:
1- Leads to emotional distress and all kinds of psychopathic illnesses,
2- Lays the foundation for psychologically disadvantaged children, and
3- Silently chokes the life and fun out of marriages.
4- Insanity becomes order of day.
5- Aggressiveness rules over everything.
6- One party becomes a dummy (deaf & dumb)
No wonder the Bible says, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work” (James 3:16). At the end of the day, the question usually is, “Was it worth it?”
Now, most times, when malice is allowed to gain ground in the home, it is because people seek revenge, when offended, instead of threading the path of forgiveness and peace.
No wonder Bob Deffinbaugh said, “…the cure for bitterness and malice and all of its fruits is forgiveness.” As the apostle Paul enjoins, “…in malice be babes, but in understanding be mature” (1 Corinthians 14:20).
Many are familiar with the scripture but are not practical with it.
Many are familiar with the scripture but are not practical with it.
SOLUTIONS:
FORGIVE
Learn how to handle offences or disagreements without resorting to strife and emotional manipulation or injury. Those who learn to forgive and are in the habit of constantly forgiving their spouses will of necessity have better relationships or homes than others.
BE OPEN / BEAR OUT YOUR MIND ALWAYS:
When you keep malice, you often pass across the wrong message and your spouse will likely respond wrongly because he or she has no way of knowing the depth of the wrong or presumed wrong you are reacting to. This further aggravates the situation as you will feel taken for granted. So it’s better to just open up, discuss and clarify the issues in order to avoid your partner misunderstanding or getting irritated by your silence.
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